Co-parenting thought on the words we speak

July 15th, 2014

My current posts and newsletters deal with co-parenting, and I want to share this timeless and often repeated advice:

“When you tell a child that you hate their other parent, you are telling them that you hate half of who they are…”

Let’s remember the power of words. Words have the power to build up or the power to tear down. Which will yours be today?

What is co-parenting?

July 9th, 2014

After the child’s parents choose to split it is important that the child be loved and supported by both parents and that the parents can productively parent the child even after a divorce. A former client came to me recently to ask about the co-parenting concept.

Q.  My ex and I almost always end up fighting whenever we talk about even the simplest matters about the kids? How can I communicate, much less co-parent, in this scenario?

Co-parenting amicably with your ex can give your children stability and close relationships with both parents–but it’s rarely easy. Putting aside relationship issues to co-parent agreeably can be fraught with stress. It is not always easy, but the benefit to your children over the years ahead will be great.

When faced with a tense situation like you described here, you should remain calm, stay consistent, and avoid or resolve conflict with your ex to make joint custody work.

The key to co-parenting is to focus on your children—and your children only. Yes, this can be very difficult. It means that your own emotions—any anger, resentment, or hurt—must take a back seat to the needs of your children. Admittedly, setting aside such strong feelings may be the hardest part of learning to work cooperatively with your ex, but it’s also perhaps the most vital. Co-parenting is not about your feelings, or those of your ex-spouse, but rather about your child’s happiness, stability, and future well-being.

It’s okay to be hurt and angry, but your feelings don’t have to dictate your behavior. Instead, let what’s best for your kids—you working cooperatively with the other parent—motivate your actions.

Are there tips to doing this effectively? You bet! Next week’s newsletter will feature some of the most effective co-parenting tips.

If you have some good co-parenting tips and advice you think I should share next week, please email me at eric@ericgruetzner.com.

If you would like to resolve your matters, or just get your legal questions answered, please feel free to reply to this email or please call me at (713) 370-7100.

Have a great day!
Eric

 

The wisdom of Abraham Lincoln…timeless advice

January 18th, 2014

“Be sure to put your feet in the right place, then stand firm.” Abraham Lincoln

Keeping the cost of your divorce/child support case under control

May 29th, 2013

The cases and cost of attorney’s fees in a family law matter are much like cars…they come in many makes, styles, and price ranges. And just like shopping for a car, you should have an idea of what you are looking for and what is in your budget BEFORE you begin.

I know, I can hear you saying now how you don’t know what you are looking to get out of this case yet, because you don’t know all of your options. I get that completely. So make sure that when you meet with me, or any attorney, you are up front about your goals and your limitations going into the suit.

This information will help me better craft your strategy AND save you some money in the long run.

Feel free to call me at (713) 370-7100 to set a time for us to sit down together and plan the steps to resolving your situation. You may also visit my website at www.ericgruetzner.com. Eric

Can I get a private divorce?

May 8th, 2013

I was recently asked whether a client’s divorce could be private. That’s a very insightful question, because many of us have no desire to have our family’s dirty laundry aired in public. In this particular client’s case, I recommended that we use collaborative law so that the parties are in control of the process, rather than the courts.

It is often a smooth fit for a divorcing couple who value their time, their money, and their image. If you are looking to make your divorce a private and mature matter, please call or email and we can visit about your situation. Eric Gruetzner

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Personal injury news…Nissan recall

April 25th, 2013

Nissan is recalling certain model year 2013 Sentra vehicles manufactured from September 11, 2012, through October 4, 2012. Some fuel tank assemblies were not properly sealed during the manufacturing process. As a result, a small amount of gasoline may leak from the tank when it is full. A gasoline leak in the presence of an ignition source may lead to a vehicle fire. Nissan will notify owners, and dealers will replace the fuel tanks as necessary, free of charge. The recall began on April 1, 2013. Owners may contact Nissan Customer Service at 1-800-647-7261.

If you are in the Houston area and would like to speak with an attorney about your vehicle subject to this recall, please feel free to call or email me. Eric Gruetzner (713) 370-7100 www.ericgruetzner.com eric@ericgruetzner.com

Man dies after police shock him with Taser

August 1st, 2012

Those of us who practice in the area of personal injury law have this situation come up from time to time…taser injuries…..

Today the Houston Chronicle reported:

A 38-year-old man died after a confrontation with police officers who shocked him with a Taser at a motel on Interstate 10 in east Houston late Tuesday.

The confrontation began about 11:30 p.m. at the Interstate Motor Lodge at 13213 East Freeway, according to the Houston Police Department.

Police said the man, whose name has not been released, was taken to East Houston Medical Center, where he later died.

The Harris County Institute of Forensic Sciences is scheduled to perform an autopsy to determine the cause of death.

No other injuries were reported.

Police said patrol officers were sent to the motel on an emergency call about a man acting strange. A woman who was working as a clerk said the man appeared at the motel front door and said he needed help. He had wet hair and huge eyes, she told police. The man wouldn’t leave or enter the motel. The clerk called 911.

When Houston Fire Department paramedics arrived, the man refused their help, Officers tried to detain him but he fought them. The officers used a Taser to subdue the man, police said.

He struggled against paramedics as they placed him on a gurney.

As is customary with in-custody deaths, the HPD Homicide and Internal Affairs divisions will investigate the case.

 

Age Discrimination in Employment

May 30th, 2012

So just what is age discrimination in employment? And how old do you have to be to be covered by federal laws on the matter?

What started as an inquisitive question recently turned into a detailed dialog about age discrimination. An acquaintance asked me about age discrimination and whether as an employment attorney if I see this happening.

Starting with the Age Discrimination in Employment Act (ADEA) of 1967, the ADEA prohibits employment discrimination against persons 40 years of age or older.  Yes, 40! Sounds pretty young, huh, but age discrimination can start at ages younger than we might think.

For example, just last fall, the restaurant chain Texas Roadhouse was sued by the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) was just this type of age discrimination. (Civil Action No. 1:11-cv-11732 in the U.S. District Court for the District of Massachusetts). Even here in the Houston area, I am asked about similar scenarios like this more often than I should be asked….so, if you are wondering if age is a factor at your workplace, please at least take time to consult with an employment attorney soon and get your questions answered.

Take care, Eric Gruetzner

Employers Who Demand Facebook Passwords

May 11th, 2012

As the WSJ Law Blog reports, Sens. Richard Blumenthal, D-Conn., and Chuck Schumer, D-N.Y., took up the issue on a federal level. The Senators wrote to the EEOC and U.S. Department of Justice, asking both agencies to investigate the practice of requiring applicants to provide their social-networking-site log-in information during the hiring process.

The letter to the U.S. DOJ sought a legal opinion as to whether the practice violates the Stored Communications Act (SCA) or the Computer Fraud and Abuse Act (CFAA). The letter citesPietrylo vs. Hillstone Restaurant Group, as support of the proposition that mandating Facebook log-ins violates the SCA.

Stay tuned…we haven’t seen the last of this issue yet, and if you are presently faced with this issue, please contact me today, I would like to help, Eric  www.ericgruetzner.com

 

EEOC Issues Guidance Regarding The Consideration Of Criminal Records In Employment Decisions

May 11th, 2012

On April 25, 2012, the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) issued an Enforcement Guidance on employer use of arrest and conviction records in employment decisions under Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 (Title VII).  The Enforcement Guidance clarifies and updates the EEOC’s longstanding policy that a categorical exclusion from employment of individuals with a criminal record raises disparate impact concerns.

The EEOC’s Enforcement Guidance comes at an important time.  In the last 20 years, an increasing number of Americans, including a disproportionate number of persons from protected status groups, have had contact with the criminal justice system.  As a result, more and more job applicants now have criminal records.  Simultaneously, advances in technology have made accessing applicants’ criminal history oftentimes as easy as pressing a button.  Given these developments, it is essential for employers to maintain proper policies for criminal record screening.

Full story continued….http://www.publiclawnews.com/public-blawg/2012/05/eeoc-issues-guidance-regarding-consideration-criminal-records-employment-decisi